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I am a forty year old divorced mother of two boys, 17 and 4 there's kind of no way I haven't done life! And today I'd like to go all out in defence of no more men and no more children, for me. I get the strange feeling that this preference is never quite wholly believed...and sure shoot me down, wed me and help produce our late, loved  unexpected brood...but I do look forward to lie ins and a lot more news papers...I just don't wake up and think ooo babygrows and nappies...my last thought at night is not of a man.
I think after such a colourful life (and that is a euphemism) and after raising both my children without a father/husband...I rather think it is a good thing that I have discovered peace, and happiness without endlessly trailing around after another man and another baby...I mean I don't even want a dog. I like babies...I like men...fair enough I don't like dogs...But I think if a lady like me says she doesn't want to go through all that again, er there might be good reason and she should not be somehow treated as if there is something wrong with her, something somehow missing in her because she no longer finds baby aisles attractive.
One thing it has made me understand is you can't just want a husband...or just want to be a wife it kind of has to be happening to you for example someone said the back of my neck was beautiful;
I didn't  immediately run home and choose my wedding colours, I didn't dream of our first child because that would be ridiculous and frankly a bit weird,  admittedly I do have a beautiful neck but that is no reason to want to wash someone's underpants.
It neither means there is anything missing, that I am somehow incomplete, or have had something essential beaten out of me by various prolonged heart breaks...I think my existing children, my wider family would very much take issue with this having benefited greatly from my acceptance, nay love of singledom.
Further more did Jesus hard time Mary Magdeline?  In fact in Luke when some Sadducees are asking about 'complex' marriage histories... Jesus only points out,
“The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are considered worthy of taking part in the age to come and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, 36 and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels. They are God’s children, since they are children of the resurrection. "

And I think it should be deeply encouraging and wonderful to meet someone, who by God's grace has learnt to appreciate the blessings of her earthly existence.