Here's the hope, 2 Samuel 13

I didn't explain Tamar properly!
Without Jesus, we are all desolate women.
Church is where we go to see him, where we go worship, where we go to bow down, where we go to say Jesus is Lord, he reigns, he is alive, because of him we are not desolate women. Don't look at your own wounds, look at Jesus' wounds.
I hope that is clearer.